Sunday, November 25, 2012

16 Tips to Cope With Stress

Source: By Evelyn Boon, Senior Principal Psychologist, Department of Psychiatry, Singapore General Hospital (SGH).

From the elderly to even young children, it seems that everyone deals with stress nowadays. Stress is our body’s (and mind’s) way of telling us that something has upset our normal equilibrium. At times stress is not a bad thing as it may motivate us to succeed but sometimes, stress can affect us in a negative way.

Here are some 16 stress management tips to help you better deal with stress.

1. A good way to start for many people is to eliminate artificial stress reducers, like alcohol or smoking which are detrimental to our health and beauty and only temporarily alleviate our stress symptoms without treating the cause.

2. Eat a well-balanced diet which includes plenty of fruits and vegetables, as well as foods which are high in complex carbohydrates. An ideal diet also has moderate amounts of protein while remaining low in fat.

3. Avoid excessive amounts of caffeine (coffee, black/red tea, soft drinks with caffeine, etc.) which could increase your anxiety and even cause palpitations. Don’t drink coffee after 6pm.

4. Exercise is one of the best ways to reduce stress and improve your overall quality of life. Walk or do whatever exercise you feel comfortable with. You may prefer to join a fitness club. Be sure to exercise regularly. Don't concern yourself with your family or work while you are working out; this is your time and don't let anyone or anything interfere.

5. Go outdoors whenever possible. A little sunshine and activity can do you a world of good and enhance your entire life outlook.

6. Think positive. For each negative thought you have, try to counter it with something positive. Always look for that silver lining.

7. Be a 'kid' sometimes. Do what you enjoyed doing when you were a child. Draw, paint, dance, read, play music, even play with play-dough. Express yourself without worrying about maintaining the image of who you are 'supposed' to be. Just relax and enjoy yourself. We all have a little child in us and it's a good idea to allow that child within to come out and play from time to time.

8. Set realistic goals for yourself. Don’t set yourself up for failure by setting unrealistic goals. For example, if you are dieting, realise that you cannot lose 10kg in one month. Allow for sufficient time to reach your goals and acknowledge that occasional setbacks may occur. Avoid expectations altogether if you can; expectations and reality are often two entirely different things.

9. Learn to manage your time well. Time management is essential when you have to juggle numerous projects or roles. Always give yourself sufficient time to accomplish your tasks.

10. Learn that it is OK to say 'no' occasionally. Very often, we feel we have to say 'yes' to everyone, every time we are asked for help. Remember, you cannot be all things to all people. You must first meet your own needs before you can truly give others what they need.

11. Make time for yourself. You have to be on top of your priority list. Attend to your own needs first. Once they are met you will find that you may have more time for others. You may find more pleasure in helping others when you don't feel that you must always put others’ needs before your own.

12. When you are facing an unpleasant situation, take a deep breath and count to ten before saying or doing anything. Taking a deliberate pause can have a calming effect, and allow you extra time to reassess the situation before taking possibly regrettable actions on impulse.

13. Practice deep breathing exercises. Imagine your stomach like a balloon, and inhale deeply and slowly, inflating that balloon. As you slowly exhale, think of the word “relax” and let it permeate your entire being, from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet. Let your stress be “released” from your feet.

14. Pamper yourself. Book a massage or a spa treatment. Indulge your senses to better manage your stress.

15. Aromatherapy can be of tremendous help. Try using five or six drops of lavender, bergamot, ylang-ylang or geranium essential oil in a warm bath or put two or three drops on a cloth and inhale from time to time during the day. You can also use a few drops on your pillow to help you to sleep better.

16. Adopt good sleep habits. Make sure you go to bed and wake up at about the same time every day. Avoid very stimulating games and take a warm shower before bedtime to help you relax. Try to resolve arguments before bedtime. If possible, only bring up issues during the daytime.

Eliminating the biggest sources of stress and learning to manage the rest will help you have a positive outlook towards life, which will have a positive trickling effect on your family and friends. With better stress management techniques, things which seem overwhelming will soon become trivial. You will be healthier, happier, and more energetic; ready to face whatever obstacles come your way.

http://www.healthxchange.com.sg/healthyliving/SpecialFocus/Pages/16-tips-to-cope-with-stress.aspx

The Couch

Frank Cintamani's Motto:
Just Do It and Learn from mistakes.

Georgia Lee's Motto:
Work hard for it, do your best no matter what the circumstance will be.

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Sunday, June 17, 2012

I like these songs

♡ PART 4: "PRIMADONNA" ♡   MARINA AND THE DIAMONDS [Official Music Video]



Belinda Carlisle - Leave A Light On


Carly Rae Jepsen - Call Me Maybe


Kelly Clarkson - Dark Side


Alexandra Stan - Mr Saxobeat (Official Video)


Adele - Turning Tables (LIVE AOL Sessions HQ)


Maroon 5 - Payphone (Explicit) ft. Wiz Khalifa

Usher - Scream

Gym Class Heroes: The Fighter ft. Ryan Tedder [OFFICIAL VIDEO]


The Wanted - Chasing The Sun


Bruno Mars - Grenade [Official Music Video]


Kris Allen - The Vision Of Love


Cheryl Cole - Fight For This Love


Alex Clare - Too Close (OFFICIAL VIDEO)


Kylie Minogue - Wow (Alternative Version) (HD)


Fun.: We Are Young ft. Janelle MonĂ¡e [OFFICIAL VIDEO]


 Keane - Silenced By The Night


Jennifer Lopez - Dance Again ft. Pitbull


Sting - Desert Rose

Pixie Lott Boys And Girls


Maria - Blondie


Kylie Minogue - Timebomb

Daniel Powter - Bad Day (Video)


Enrique Iglesias - Heartbeat ft. Nicole Scherzinger


Home- Phil Phillips


Bruno Mars - Marry You

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Holding hands

I'm so envious of couples holding hands.

When I was at Hyde Park, I was sitting with 1 elderly couples. They were smiling at me. Their smiles were so beautiful and serene. It was at a late afternoon. The park was so beautiful with half daylight. As the daylight got lesser and lesser, the elderly couples said goodbye to me. Grandpa held grandma's hand and walked together. While they were walking together, they looked at the white swan and chatted about it and continued their walks. So sweet. =)

Every now and then, I see couples holding each other hands, whispering to each other ears and pecking on each other face. I'm so envy.

With my introvert personality, I wonder would I ever have these moments happen to me. Why introvert? I can be extrovert but I'm very introvert when comes to relationship. In my entire life, I never ever dare to say I like a guy. I'm very shy and have no gut in this area. (>_<)


Saturday, April 28, 2012

Don't want to be alone

Suddenly, this feeling of loneliness hit me so hard.

Since I became independent and came out to this working society, I feel that most of the time I'm alone. It's not that I don't have friends or colleagues. It's the feeling of loneliness travelling back home , eat alone, watch tv alone and sleep alone. This routine has been 8 years. 

Occasionally, I go out with my friends or colleagues. We shop, eat, drink coffee, have high tea and watch movies. They can't accompany me forever. They have their newly set up families. I'm so envy of them. They can go out with their partners. They have their partners to accompany them. (I have never been in a relationship in my entire life). (-_-)

I'm all alone. Besides the weekday routine of going to work and going back home alone, I seldom go out on weekend nowadays. It's not as active going out as in the past. Nowadays, all my friends are busy with their boyfriends, husbands or babies. Yet I'm so free. This freedom has become boredom. I'm only busy occasionally, like busy with work, busy surfing Internet or busy preparing for holiday trip.

I have been to Australia alone.
I have been to Europe alone.
And I'm going to London alone again this year.

How I wish I could find someone to go with me.
How I wish I could find someone to have dinner with me.
How I wish I could find someone to watch movies with me.
How I wish I could find someone to go shopping with me.
How I wish I could find someone to drink coffee or have high tea with me.

 Celine Dion - All By Myself
(P.S. The 3rd sentence of the lyrics "making.." does not represent me)